Perfect: having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.
This past Sunday’s message at church really spoke to me. Not only because I struggle with perfection in my personal life but also in my professional life. Pastor Adam Weber (@adamweber), lead pastor at Embrace in Sioux Falls, SD, started the first of a two week series titled “Perfect”. This first week focused on why we expect others to be perfect, and we are surprised when they are not.
The following verse really jumped out to me:
Luke 6: 41-42
“Why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but pay no attention to the log in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Please, brother, let me take that speck out of your eye,’ yet cannot even see the log in your own eye? First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will be able to see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
Why do we see the imperfections in other people’s lives when we have so many of our own?
Others are not and will not be perfect
I really struggle with this in my life. I get frustrated when my dog won’t listen. I get angry when someone drives like an idiot. I don’t have patience for people that don’t listen or understand. And what I have learned, and am continuing to learn, is that expecting perfection of anyone is crazy.
Getting mad at someone for something insignificant, or even major, hurts me more than it hurts the other person. It affects me as a person. It affects me as a husband and a father. It affects me as an co-worker and employee. Dwelling on pain and anger solves nothing.
What I try to realize and what Adam pointed out in his message is that we are called to focus on what we can do and where we can grow. Instead of looking for and focusing on the negative, seek out and focus on the positive. Be quick to extend forgiveness.
I need to remind myself daily, and sometimes hourly if needed, that no one is perfect. No one will ever be perfect, especially me.
I urge you to watch Adam’s message below.